Making sure you are a family with a bond that can’t be broken might not be something you think you have to work at. However, many people still find it useful to carve out time for their families, and even to make sure they pick up the daily habits that can help them to feel closer together. As time goes on, families can begin to feel out of the loop with one another if they don’t make the effort to keep that connection.
Here, you’ll find 13 things you can do to make your family 10x stronger. Take a look and see what you can do!
- Take Care Of Your Health Together
Taking care of your health together has numerous benefits; you’ll live longer, feel better, and exercising and eating right together can be a learning curve for everybody involved. You’ll be able to teach your kids that taking care of their health is not a chore, rather something that can be fun. When they get older, this will likely be second nature to them. Whether you’re cooking a healthy meal as a family or you’re going out on a long walk together, you can all build amazing connections and memories from doing so.
- Manage Your Own Stress Levels
If you find yourself stressed out fairly often, now could be the time to work on reducing your stress levels as much as you possibly can. Why? When asked, many children admitted that the number one thing they wanted was for their parents to be happier and more relaxed. Plus, when you’re stressed or experiencing issues, it can rub off on your kids. You might think that the only person feeling your stress is you, but really, this isn’t the case at all. Your kids can begin to experience stress in their own lives, and it could even put a strain on your romantic relationship with your partner. Family law solicitors can be a place to turn when you know that something has got to change, but first, changing your own attitude and working on reducing your stress levels is a must. Don’t wait until you’re at breaking point to do anything!
- Build Your Social Network
Building your social network can mean getting invites to more events and having a whole lot more fun. You can build your network by joining a parent support group or network, where you can make friends with people and set up play dates for your kids, too. Aim to meet new people with families and you could learn a lot from each other.
- Eat At Least One Meal Together Every Day
You might find it difficult to eat with one another, but there are a few very good reasons you should do your best to make it work. Eating at least one meal together each day has been scientifically backed to bring a family closer together. It gives you a chance to catch up and talk about your day, and kids who eat meals with their parents every day are more likely to stay away from things like drugs. They also do better at school! That should be enough reason alone to eat at least one meal together per day, right?
- Practice Positive Communication
The language you use will affect your kids too, as they learn how to communicate with one another and the world around them from you. Make sure that you aim to practice positive communication as often as you can.
Make sure that when a member of your family is looking to talk to you, you give them your full attention. Listen to them, and don’t just wait for your turn to talk. Let them express their concerns and feelings. Now, positive communication doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to talk about feeling angry if something has happened that has made you feel that way. However, the key is to stay in control of your emotions no matter what. You should never lose control!
It’s important to remember that you won’t always be ready for a conversation to take place. Children often like to start spontaneous conversations in the bath or before bed, so do your best to be prepared for difference scenarios. Teenagers might even want to broach difficult subjects with you, such as talking about things like sex, drugs, alcohol and more.
- Get Used To Demonstrating Teamwork
Demonstrating teamwork so that everybody in your household can take some kind of responsibility will be a huge help, too. Share the household chores, and get even young children involved. There will be something they can do, even if it’s only a small task. You should also include your kids in decisions about things like rules, holidays, and family activities. Give everybody in your family a chance to have their say. Family meetings are an awesome way to start doing this – as we’ll go into later.
It’s also a good idea to allow your children to make some decisions for themselves, too. For example, what they would like to wear, and how they would like to travel to school. This will depend on both their maturity and abilities, as well as boundaries that you’ve set. Having rules such as ‘we always speak to one another respectfully in our family’ will help you all to get along when demonstrating teamwork and in general.
Working together to come up with solutions to problems can be a help, too. Consider options and opinions presented by others, respect what everybody has to say, and work on finding a constructive solution that suits everybody. Demonstrating teamwork can mean working towards compromises, too.
- Practice Fair Fighting
We’ve touched on communication, but what about fair fighting? No family is going to be perfect 100% of the time, and there may be times you find yourself in more heated disputes. It’s important you don’t go off track, and that you are able to stay focused on this particular behaviour or problem. Use ‘I’ phrases to express your thoughts and feelings so that you’re not putting blame onto anybody else, even if they are at fault. Rather than saying ‘you never listen to me or do as I say’ you could say ‘It upsets me when you don’t do as I’ve asked’.
Remember, it’s always time to call for a time out if things have gotten so heated that people feel like throwing things or hitting one another. Everybody can continue talking when things have calmed down. Walking away is sometimes much better than continuing a conversation.
Even coming up with a solution together on something you are in disagreement over can help. If your child doesn’t want to go to bed when you tell them, sit down and think of a way that will make bedtime more appealing together. Perhaps you could go and spend 20 minutes reading to them in bed, and allow them to read until they feel tired enough to sleep.
- Do New Things Together Regularly
People need novelty. It makes life exciting and teaches us new things! Novelty can make family bonds stronger, as everybody is experiencing things together that they have never experienced before. Go to new places, explore new area, and do as many new and exciting things as you can.
- Don’t Overschedule Your Kids
It’s all too easy to overschedule your kids when there are a ton of after school clubs and opportunities for them. They don’t need to do every single class available, though! Having a few after school hobbies can be great, but they shouldn’t be feeling stressed out or overwhelmed, and you shouldn’t feel like their chauffeur. Practice some of your own hobbies together instead.
- Do Chores As A Family
Doing chores as a family further instill that feeling of being a great team that works well together. You can split the chores equally, or create a rota that means things are handed out in a way that can’t be disputed. Put on some music and get your chores done with a smile! Making sure your kids start early on can give them a head start in life.
- Have Family Meetings
Family meetings can allow you to discuss all kinds of things, from any ongoing issues in the house, to upcoming activities that you’ll need to start planning for. Having these fairly regularly can be a great way to talk about what’s really important and ensure you’re all on the same page.
Teaching your kids that giving their time can make somebody else’s life better is a powerful learning experience. Oftentimes, helping others can give us a greater sense of joy than helping ourselves. There are important life lessons to be learned, and you’ll raise more empathetic, kind, and caring children.
- Show Affection
Showing affection doesn’t always come second nature, depending on how you were brought up. However, showing affection to your family will always bring you closer together. Warmth and affection will help your kids stand strong when they are out handling things on their own. A simple pat on the back, hug, and kiss on the forehead can be enough sometimes.