Self care is the ultimate buzz word right now – it’s actually an industry I have a bit of a bone to pick with but that’s for another day! My scepticism aside, one of the most important lessons I’ve learnt in 3 years of being a Mum is that you have to know when it’s time to put yourself first. If you martyr yourself and do everything without complaint 9/10 people will let you. It’s not that they’re cruel or take you for granted, it’s just they might not see you. So I think you need to look in the mirror and see yourself once in a while.
Here’s eight simple things you can do to put yourself back on the map and hopefully avoid being consumed by your role.
- Make a quick list of your hobbies, if it’s blank think about yourself 2, 3, 8 years ago and write a list of her hobbies. Are there things there you miss? Good, start doing one of them again today.
- Buy yourself a small treat. Maybe bath bombs are your thing but every time you go to Lush you come out with jelly bombs and baby robots… swop one for something for you next time.
- Phone a friend to catch up – make some time to have an actual conversation and don’t feel bad about it. Leave the ironing… who even irons anyway?
- Get some new pyjamas. They don’t have to be expensive although I bet your kids ones are! There’s nothing like the feeling of crisp new PJs at the end of a long day.
- On the topic of sleep, what’s your bed like? Is the bedding a decade old? Has the mattress lost it’s bounce? Given that you spend at least 2000 hours a year in your bed maybe it’s time to invest in your sleep. Check out the latest mattress deals on Groupon and bag a bargain.
- If you need help ask for it in a precise way. Whether you call on a friend, your mum or your partner ask them to do a specific task that’s going to make your life easier. Maybe you need an afternoon of babysitting or someone to take care of the food shop. I’m almost certain if you ask for something quantifiable you’ll get it.
- Head out for coffee with another Mum. Maybe it’ll be your own Mum, a friend, your MIL – bring the kids if you have to and soak that caffeine in.
- Move it. Go for a walk, do some yoga on Youtube. If nothing else you’ll give yourself a laugh… and possibly a stitch!