Whenever I was pregnant we decided not to find out if Lu was a boy or a girl, we stayed team yellow throughout and I’m really glad. Like a lot of people, I felt like there aren’t many surprises left and I wanted to keep the sex of our baby unknown. I honestly wasn’t really tempted to find out, I love gender neutral clothes and even if we had known I wouldn’t have made a huge amount of pink or blue purchases anyway. I’ve seen this topic addressed in tonnes of Youtube videos recently and I just love watching them so I thought I’d bring it to my blog today.
The only slight drawback to not knowing is it can be a bit harder to visualise yourself as a parent. I do think for some people being able to picture their baby more clearly and pick out names is a really important part of pregnancy. If/when we do have another baby I’m not sure if we’ll take the same approach. On one hand, my opinion on the matter hasn’t really changed, I’m glad we made the choice to be ‘team yellow’. But there is certainly an argument that it would be easier to involve your existing child if you can talk about the new baby in a less abstract way.
I’ve seen the topic of ‘baby names we love but won’t be using’ addressed in tonnes of Youtube videos recently and I just love watching them. I’ve made a video on a similar topic before I thought I’d bring this one to my blog today.
As I said before we didn’t find out that Luisa was a girl until she was unceremoniously plucked from me in theatre. We had actually already tentatively decided on a name that we felt would work for both a boy and a girl but on meeting her it just wasn’t ‘right’. She was so far from the baby we’d imagined, for a start, we were convinced she’d be a boy and we were told by midwives she’d be quite the bruiser. The reality was a fragile 5lb girl and we were rather taken aback.
Some of the names we considered for Luisa were Eloise, Nora and Ava. In the end, we opted for Luisa, obviously! You can read a little more about the meaning of her name and why we choose it in this post.
Fast forward to today and the names I love but probably won’t use for my hypothetical children, in no particular order, are…
Brodie, Moray, Hazel, Beatrice, Lily, Hudson, Noah, Bryony, Aster, Bo, Quinn, Juniper, Hamish, Jude, Daisy, Hugo, Bay, Poppy, Mabel, Scout
I’ll not get into all the reasons why I most likely wouldn’t opt for these names as I’d bore you to tears. In short most of them are vetoed because we considered them for Lu, they’re already very popular with under 5s or Matt & I don’t agree.
Whilst I do think it’s lovely to have a family name incorporated somehow I think it’s important that you choose something you love with meaning behind it. Whether it’s because it reminds you of a special place or because it’s steeped in tradition is neither here nor there. Luisa was special to use because of the meaning behind the name – fierce warrior. Her middle names are Isla to give a nod to Scotland as her birth country and Rose because it’s an important family name.
For any future children, I will almost certainly take the same approach and choose at least 3 names which are special to me or have some meaning behind them. As you can see from the list above I really like names with a natural or botanical influence. I think they just suit the spirit of a child so well, free and beautiful in their own way. I also love that many of the meanings behind a botanical name are a bit cryptic or at least, not immediately obvious. This guide to hidden flower meanings has some real gems, for example, I always thought of lilies as a funeral flower but in actual fact, perceptions are changing to align with the original meaning of fertility and hope which I think makes Lily a grogeous name for a longed for little girl. In a similar vein, the meaning behind daisies is beauty and innocence which doesn’t surprise me at all as I think of them as a real carefree and joyful bloom.
Many thanks to Flying flowers for providing the guide and sponsoring this post.